Feeling Maternal

Sometimes 2 cents go a long way, sometimes not.. but worth a shot.

I was thinking bout Jesus (Jesus as a person, I'm not religious in the general sense of the word) during my walk tonight, and a mixture of my own recent experiences at work & with people in general has prompted me to want to write to my future kids. I'd want to save them from some of the distress and confusion that people can incite on one another. Here's an echo of my self reminder/consolation that sometimes work..

Genuinely good, smart, and kind people are hard to come by. Everyone can do it but it takes an extremely disciplined individual to know how to balance all qualities of compassion, generosity, knowledge, wisdom, and understanding of human nature to be able to make a successful, positive impact in the world. If you do attain such qualities and capabilities, you may come across two types of people, both types will experience a sort of awe and belittlement by you. One group may feel belittled and humbled by the example you set and you will inspire them to improve and achieve great things in life and influence others the same way. The other group, however, may feel belittled and angry at you for minimizing their egos and self worth, especially if they were given more attention and praise before your presence. The comparison will hurt their self esteem and because they may not know any better, their intuition may be to discredit you or get rid of you one way or another. This is inevitable and try not to be angry or be discouraged, it's a natural response in some people who have not been guided well. Just remember that everyone gets the same chance to make that decision - you can chose to be humbled and allow yourself time and a chance to be good/great or, be resentful and envious and eliminate the possibility of becoming the best of your potential as a result. Bringing someone down does not automatically make you better. Self worth is done exactly that, with yourself, not by the comparison of yourself with others. The only way to be better is if the person you are now is better than the previous version of you, whether it was a moment ago or 2 years ago. It's the how and why that matters before the what or when.

Whether it's siblings, classmates, or co-workers in the future, people are all good on the inside but it's how we respond to others and situations that truly define how strong, smart, and noble we are as human beings. We're fortunate to have that choice and that it's not made for us. If my kids ask why, I'd feel secretly proud and make them find the answer.